A woman found herself in an unenviable situation after her husband, without prior arrangement, invited her mother to stay with them for a month. She shared her story on Reddit, in the popular “Am I Exaggerating?” group, where she asked for the public’s opinion, writes People.
It’s been exhausting for two weeks already.
In her post, the woman stated that she and her husband have a “correct” relationship with his mother, but the problem arises when she comes to visit them because, as she says, she is very demanding.
“She stays with us for two weeks every summer, and even that seems exhausting,” she admitted. “She criticizes my cooking, rearranges my kitchen, and expects us to entertain her all the time.”
A decision he made himself
This year, the situation escalated. Her husband called her and mentioned that his mother had asked him if he could stay with them for a month because her house was being renovated. Before he could even hear her opinion, he had already confirmed his arrival.
An additional problem is the fact that they both work from home, and her office is located in the guest room, which would mean that she would have to work from another space for a month.
“You are selfish and you don’t support my family”
“I told him right away that it wouldn’t work,” she wrote. “I said that two weeks was our absolute limit with his mother and that he should have talked to me first. I suggested we help her pay for a short-term rental nearby.”
Her proposal, however, provoked a violent reaction from her husband, who is now, as she says, “furious.”
“He says I’m selfish and unsupportive of his family, and that I’m making him break his word and tell his mother she’s not welcome,” she shared. “He says it’s his house too and he should be able to host his own mother. He accused me of not considering family important and said I exaggerated the ‘little inconveniences’ of her visits.”
Internet support
Although she feels guilty because this is a family that needs help, she admits that she is terrified at the thought of living together like this. “The thought of a whole month under the same roof, with a destroyed work routine and no privacy, fills me with fear,” she concluded.
Her post attracted hundreds of comments, with most users siding with her. “YOU ARE NOT EXCESSIVE, your husband should have consulted you. And it should be his office being used as a guest room,” one user wrote.
Others offered creative solutions: “My suggestion is to move somewhere else for a month and leave it to your husband,” while a third added: “Get a short-term rental and enjoy the peace and quiet while your husband pampers his mother. I bet he’ll send her home before the month is up.”
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